I don’t know about you, but I honestly do not remember what my New Year’s Resolution was. I have tried to remember, I know I even wrote it down, but I can’t find that piece of paper. I looked back in my journal to January 1st to see if it was there, but to no avail. I asked my wife, but she can’t remember it either. I checked to see if I wrote it somewhere on my phone, but not there either. It is lost to the deepest parts of my memory, not to be found in the near future. I was really excited about my resolution when I made it, and for all I know I am doing it right now, but I cannot for the life of me remember what it was. This has made me think of the importance of New Year’s resolutions a little more deeply, and whether making them is that important to me, or am I only making one because that’s what everyone is doing when the clock strikes 12.
I like the idea of making a resolution in the New Year, and I believe it is important to make them to help improve oneself. I have noticed over the years that I have trouble keeping my resolutions , or more importantly remembering them. I am sure many others have the same issue. It is by no means something we do on purpose, but something that just happens. One reason is the resolution is not really that important to us. We make it because everyone else is, and it is the “thing to do”. Another reason is because there is no attachment to the resolution, again because it is something everyone is doing.
I turned 30 last week, and I couldn’t be less phased by it. To be honest, I would say I am more excited than anything else. I had been thinking about this birthday for the past year. One, because it is a milestone birthday and this reason alone makes me think about it. Two, because I thought about all of my accomplishments in my life so far, the people who have impacted me in my life, and where I will go from here (Oh the places I will go). The third reason I had been thinking about my 30th birthday so much is that on my 29th birthday, I made goals to accomplish by the time I turned 30, and I obtained every one of them.
The reason I like the idea of a birthday resolution is because I don’t share this resolution with anyone but myself. Unlike a New Year’s Resolution, I make this because I choose to, and not from the peer pressure of having to tell people what I plan to improve in my next year. I am also really beginning a new year in my life, and it seems fitting to make goals for what I want to do in my next year instead of a calendar year. My goals were defined with a strict deadline too because I turned 30 on June 15th. I was not able to move the deadline because it was coming no matter what. I couldn’t say “I’ll do it tomorrow” because I only got one 29th year, and the clock is always ticking. It was either do it, or never be able to say I obtained my goals by my 30th birthday. This simplicity helped me stay motivated. Below are some tips I have about birthday resolutions nce making my own. Use them to craft your own resolution to reach your next level in the coming year.
Make the Resolution about You
You are making this Birthday Resolution at a time where the day is all about you. This is great because it makes it so you are the only one making a resolution, so the whole thing can be about you and only you. The resolution does not need to be “typical” either. It can be whatever YOU want to accomplish in the next year of your life. Before you turn one year older, what do you want to say you have done? How could you improve yourself in 365 days?
Write It Down
Write down your resolution and revisit it often to keep yourself on track. You can also track your progress toward your goal to ensure even more success. Revisiting your resolution will keep it fresh in your mind, and also make sure you don’t lose it. Print it out and put it somewhere in your house so you can see it all of the time. Track your progress on a chart, especially if you have a clearly defined, measurable goal. The more you look at your resolution, the more likely you are to take action against it because you will either feel motivated to do it, or you will feel guilt for not doing it. Either way, you will give yourself a spark to act.
Make the Resolution a Must
Why do you need to meet this resolution in the next year? You need to want your resolution to be successful so much that it is a 100% must have or do before you become one year older. My resolution this year was a must because I needed to prove to myself that I can do anything I set my mind to. I also wanted to be in the best shape of my life at the age of 30 as opposed to 20. I wanted to prove that I can get stronger and in better shape as I get older, and that age really is just a number. Now that I reached my goals, I look to the future, and know anything is possible. The must of having to complete my goal has motivated me to make more and bigger goals for my life, and my next level is now even higher.
Make It Big Enough
Stop making small resolutions. Make them big, and even scary. I am not saying make them unattainable or fantasy, but your resolution needs to be big enough for you to wonder if it is even possible. Too often we make goals that are small and reachable, but this allows us to procrastinate and think we can do it tomorrow. Making your resolution so big that you wonder where to even start will give you the kick to get going because if you don’t it won’t happen. I did not make it to one of my goals for my 30th birthday resolution, but it was not for a lack of trying (yes, I lied earlier). Rather it was because I just didn’t get there. But I learned a lot on the way and enjoyed the process because I saw my progress happening each and every day. My goals were big, and scary. I had no idea how I was going to get there when I originally made them, but that is part of the reason why I was successful.
Make the Resolution Fun
The whole point of making resolutions is they are about improving yourself, but you need to enjoy the moment you are in as well as the actual act of improving yourself. I am not saying if you don’t like working out to not do it, or if healthy food is something you despise, only eat junk food. On the contrary, I am suggesting you find a way to make improving yourself enjoyable. For example, if you have trouble with stress, and you make the resolution to meditate every day, find a way that will make this new habit possible. Maybe you are a competitive person, so having a contest with a friend for the longest streak for days meditated in a row will help. You could also feed into the side of you that wants to check things off of a list or calendar, and cross out or X out meditation every day on this list or a calendar. You could meditate with someone, or take a class. Whatever it is you choose to do to improve yourself, you need to make it fun or you most likely will not succeed.
Keep at it
Don’t quit. Whatever your resolution, you have a journey to travel on, and you will not get there in a day, week, month, or possibly a year. Changing something about who you are, or a habit is not an easy task, but looking at it as a process and a journey will help you to success. There will be days you will fall, but at the same time, there will be days that you do really well. The journey to success is never straight forward, yet rather ebbs and flows. When things get hard, life gets in the way, or your schedule does not want to budge to allow you to work on your resolution, this is when you need to remember the reason you made your resolution in the first place. Your resolution needs to become a must, and it needs to be big enough. Know why you started it, and revisit it daily in the beginning so you can keep these new ideas at the forefront of your thinking. These are big goals you are planning on completing, and to be as cliché as possible, Rome was not built in a day. Keep it up, and remember to have fun. You are changing your life.
What is your birthday resolution going to be? Start thinking of it now, and leave a comment below to help other’s brainstorm ideas.